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Can a cop pull you over walking home asking why you are out so late?

Last Updated: 16.06.2025 05:15

Can a cop pull you over walking home asking why you are out so late?

I told them I was in the office. They asked if I'd been drinking. I told them I was just too tired to park properly and wanted to go to bed. They kept asking dumb questions about my job (I was so tired I’m pretty sure I was really confusing), so they gave me a breathalyzer test, and then let me go once they understood they were just bothering a poor person working too many hours.

I was going back home from my office, around 3 or 4 am. Huge project to hand in, I just kept on going until I had it finished and polished, and when I finally managed to finish I drove back and started looking for a parking spot.

Sure they can. It happened to me a few years ago.

Can it be true that people know your name, not your story, they’ve heard what you’ve done, but not what you’ve been through, so take their opinions of you with a grain of salt?

I was polite throughout the whole interaction, there wasn't much they could do. They weren't nice until it was clear I was just tired and not DUI, but that makes some sense.

Uhm, just as a note: Europe, not US.

That's when the policemen spotted me: I was so tired I was unable to park where I found a spot, and just drove to the next one I found. When I left my car, they pulled me over and asked me a bunch of questions (the usual ones, like where I was going, where I was earlier, etc).

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?